A New Year’s Promise to Yourself

Its 2019!! How did that even happen?! First and foremost, I want to say THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart! The women who trust me throughout the Blush & Tease experience are so dear to me. I know it can be intimidating and I applaud you for your investment in yourself and your big steps to major self love! And just take a look at how amazing 2018 was…

Over the past few weeks I have had so many women tell me that THIS IS THIER YEAR! They are promising themselves a boudoir experience in 2019! Hearing those words makes my heart soar! If you have followed me for any amount of time or read any of my blogs, you know that I believe every woman deserves to love herself more and to see herself in the light of those that adore her. The mirror just doesn’t do the job and self love does NOT come easy!

So lets talk about promises for a second. They are easy to say and sometimes hard to keep. They feel good at the moment and then tend to get weighty and seem impossible. When whatever it is just can’t be done, people are hurt, apologizes are made, trust is broken. All in all, its an ugly thing what those broken promises do.

One of the biggest promises I have ever made was to my daughter. When we decided to move to Denver over 5 years ago, we hit a major road block. After hunting a house to rent for months, there was only ONE choice. Although we truly believe that God had that house just waiting for our family, let me say it again, we hit a major road block. Our girl has a cat, he is her everything. So Hank became the heartbreak of the move to Denver. We knew it was a huge deal and we hated hurting her, especially during such a huge life changing season for our family. So, we begged Grandma & Grandpa to adopt Hank for a year and promised her that we would find a new house next year and Hank could rejoin our family. WOAH. Talk about a tall order. If you live in Denver and know the rental market, you probably just laughed out loud! But this promise was not only big in a way that felt impossible, but it was huge in a way that promised our daughter that we would get her back her precious Hank and show her that we were on her team, even in the craziness of our big changes. There were so many tears and a huge broken heart, but she trusted us and we said goodbye to Hank for a while.

After about 6 months I reached out to our landlord to let him know that although we love the house, we made a promise to our daughter and we would be looking for a new rental when our lease was up because…HANK. After some discussion we got the call that they would approve him coming to live with us! Talk about a miracle haha! We were fully committed to uproot again to fulfill our promise, and I’m so thankful we didn’t have to. Making that promise to her felt so good, fulfilling it on the other hand, MAN, that was a rough one! For your viewing pleasure…

There are plenty of promises that didn’t work out so great BUT I want to focus on a different kind of promise, the promises we make to ourselves. Last year I realized that I have broken so many that I’ve just stopped making them all together! In “Girl, Wash your Face”, Rachel Hollis addresses this head on. If you haven’t read it, go order your copy asap.

But let me ask you, have you made a promise to yourself for 2019? I avoided it, but I’ve decided this is the year I stop breaking those promises. So in a big vulnerable moment…my 2019 promise.

This year I promise Adena to give her more grace. To forgive her when I feel like she’s failed. To be patient with her. And to not be so hard on her.

This will NOT be an easy one to keep and it will be a moment I have to face over and over this year. Actions speak louder than words, and I’m determined to make this happen!

Will you join me? Will you make a promise to yourself and just NOT break it?