Busting the Boudoir Hesitations

I talk to so many women who admire what I do BUT they just know they couldn’t get in front of my camera. They love the beautiful photos of my clients BUT they just know that I couldn’t do the same for them.

Almost every woman who has stepped in front of my camera has some form of hesitation. Whether its a minor flaw she can’t see past or a whole lifetime of stories why she can’t see herself in this light, these ladies took the leap of faith. See if any of these statements resonate with you…


“Yes because I’m a big girl and looking at all of the other pictures that you have done, I didn’t think I would look very good in pictures.” L.W.

“Yes for sure. I debated on doing it for months because I didn’t think I was the right kind of woman to do it.” B.L.

“Yes. I had a level of wondering if I was too old to do this. I wondered if I should splurge and spend the money or if it was a selfish thing to do. I thought, what if I do this and I hate the pictures. There was many hesitations.” L.F.

“I had some slight hesitations. I have had 2 babies in 2 years, both via c-section. My body is not what it was when I did my first session.” A.S.

“YES! Absolutely 100%, yes! Up until the day of the shoot I was terrified. I shed some tears trying on outfits, I swore up and down that I was going to cancel and cut my losses with what was already spent, and on and on.” K.D.

Do any of those sound familiar? I have heard so many things that hold clients back from their Blush & Tease Experience. BUT, if you’re reading this blog you are probably hoping whatever hesitation you have isn’t worth listening to. Its time to bust those hesitations!

Recently I asked the ladies in my Facebook group for their feedback. WOW, the response! My Blush & Tease Beauties opened up about what held them back, or is still holding them back. They encouraged each other and told the group why they are glad they didn’t listen to that voice telling them they weren’t good enough. I’ll share the top answers with you here in this blog, but really, come and join us and check out the rest! (click here to join. You won’t be sorry!)

1 – I’m not happy with my body. 

This hesitation takes on many forms. Shape, size, weight, scars, cellulite. Let me take a little pressure off of your body for a second. I am here to photograph YOU. Your beauty, your soul, your story. Did you notice what I didn’t say? Your body, your thighs, the bags under your eyes, we could go on and on here. At our planning meeting I will ask you the question, “What do you love about your body?”. That question might scare you and if you don’t know how to answer, don’t worry, you’re in good company. Unlike some boudoir shoots, the Blush & Tease Experience is not about your body. Although I will say, we make that love list a whole lot longer throughout the process. You don’t just have to trust me on this one…remember all of those ladies with this hesitation? Listen to the rest of their story…

“Now I see myself a little more as a beautiful woman vs. focusing on perfect or imperfect ‘parts’. When Adena captures the essence of who you are, its as a whole woman, a complete woman. It isn’t about my breast or my butt so much to me.” L.F.

“I feel this is something everyone should do because it does bring a new perspective on how you look at your own body.” L.W.

“I had some slight hesitations. I have had 2 babies in 2 years, both via c-section. My body is not what it was when I did my first session…” A.S. trusted me in spite knowing that her body was different now. She called it “beautifully flawed by a crooked scar.” Now she says these photos are some of her all time faves! Also, if you know how the Blush & Tease albums work, you know we get to customize the front, like the title of your story. Her’s says, “She is whole.”

“I feel like me again, not just someone’s momma. I am in complete awe of my pictures and feel extremely proud.” What a heartbreak if your mom bod would have held her back from seeing herself as this woman.


“I did the shoot when I’m at my heaviest…by a long shot, and I’m so glad I did! I have a new found obsession with my curves and how happy I am in my body just as it is! Gone is the skinny girl with a smile that doesn’t reach her eyes. Make way for the curvy, confident, badass woman with the genuine smile that exudes sexiness!! Adena perfectly captured that feeling in her art.” T.L.

2 – What if I don’t like my photos?

“What if I look ridiculous?”

“I won’t look like the women I’ve seen on your page.”

“Obviously you can take good photos of HER, she’s perfect! But that’s not me.”

I’ve heard this hesitation a thousand different ways! Let me be very clear, most of those women who you are admiring on my page came to me with the exact same fear. Each of my clients are so unique and what makes the Blush & Tease Experience work for every single one of them is the depth of the process. I get to know who you are, what you want to see in yourself. I help you style your session, give you some self love homework. All it takes is a little desire to fall in love with the woman who you are and a little trust for the process.

“I had so many of these fears. Mostly thinking I wouldn’t compare to the dozens of beautiful women I’ve seen pose for you. But at my reveal I cried. A happy cry because the photos were breathtaking. And it was me! You really have a natural gift and anyone who has worked with you can vouch for it. I look at my app all the time to remind myself I am brave, happy, and a romantic.”  B.L.

I asked L.F. how she felt when she first saw her photos…”I felt so many emotions! Joy! Pure and total joy. Relief. I didn’t look silly, I looked beautiful. Pride. I’m not a bad looking woman! Appreciation. Adena is so talented at what she does. Peace. I am more than just ok.” L.F.

“I am pretty sure my jaw literally hit the floor when I saw my photos for the first time. I could not believe the girl in the photo was me! She was confident, sincere, and fierce!” K.D.

3 – I don’t know how to do this!

“I don’t know…what to wear, how to pose, where to shop, what to bring, how to look sexy.” Oh girl, you just have to follow my lead! I tell my clients all the time, I am SUPER bossy…my kids hate it, but you will love it! This is not a cookie cutter experience so you won’t get a list of where to shop and the exact outfits you need. We make this plan at our meeting, I will walk you through it every step of the way and even give you opinions when you’re standing in the dressing room thinking WTF. And please hear me when I say posing is 100% my job! I will direct your body, your facial expressions, the whole feel of the shoot. Again, don’t take my word for it…

“Yes I was hesitant I wouldn’t look as beautiful or how to pose. But Adena is a magician and gives you cues for the poses. Easy peasy. The way I see myself now is worth it and I do not regret it one bit.” J.L.

“I knew that this was the time in my life that I needed to do this! My only hesitations were “poses” but after the session started, Adena  made it so comfortable and the poses came natural. Through the whole process, she is right there along with you. I couldn’t have asked for a better session!” E.R.

“This feels terribly vulnerable to begin with, but with Adena’s technique you start to feel incredibly beautiful and the rest just follows.” J.L

“When Adena is in her element and looks through that camera at you and does that ‘Adena Squeal’ you cannot help but feel beautiful and special and seen. If you haven’t done a shoot yet and are thinking about it, take the leap of faith. You will be changed forever when you can see yourself the way other people see you.” L.F.

Obviously, I could go on and on thanks to my amazing clients who share their stories with me. But let me leave you with this…remember K.D.?

“Up until the day of the shoot I was terrified. I shed some tears trying on outfits, I swore up and down that I was going to cancel and cut my losses with what was already spent, and on and on.”

Well…after a lot of nerves and trust…

“I LOVED the entire day of the shoot – every detail was taken care of. The hair and makeup were amazing (let’s be honest, Heather is a rockstar) and being pampered for a while was incredible. I loved that Adena had my Pinterest board readily available so we didn’t forget anything. The day of, the thing I was most worried about was trying to figure out how to pull outfits together – and Adena did that before my makeup was done!! That was a huge relief and she put together the outfits and poses better than I ever could have imagined. She is a true visionary.”

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LADIES! I’m not making this up! Whatever hesitation you have is NOT enough to hold you back! You are more than enough, let me show you your beauty! EMAIL ME TODAY!